Secret No. 1
"Your Cash Ain't Nothin' But Trash"
You may be wondering, what's the significance of the second photo ("Huck Finn" - Mickey Rooney, William Connolly, William Frawley)?
Well, I couldn't find just the photo I wanted, so you'll have to rent this 1939 movie starring these three men. If you're familiar with the film, Connolly and Frawley - two classic film-flam artists - masquerade as two lost brothers of a rich man. At one point, they are in bed together with a small money sack tied to their wrists, between them. Obviously, the point is that neither of them could make off with the money without waking the other, because they didn't trust each other.
This scene perfectly exemplifies the situation with married couples who are just too focused on money.
You know, having a little extra change is nice. You can buy better cuts of meat. You can buy better wine and whiskey. You can have cake and ice cream once in a while. But the biggest problem with having disposable income is that there's too often disagreement on what to do with it.
When we got married, we hardly had a pot to piss in or a window to throw it out of…but we were happy…because we had love. And 44 years later, we're still happy…because we have love…and not a lot of money. You see how that works?
I don't have a problem with money per se. Get as much of it as you can, short of robbery or scamming. But be careful with it, because what happens is, you can get infected with a case of I want this and he/she wants something else. When all that really matters is that you have each other, and you love each other, which is the reason you got married in the first place.
The minister that married us was a very likable, down-to-earth kind of guy and we'll never forget his counseling. He had come to know us fairly well and said that two of the things that couples have the biggest problems with are (of course) sex and money. He said that we shouldn't worry about the first; that he doubted we'd have any serious disagreements about sex, but that if we could manage to not argue about money, we'd be very happy together.
He was so right.